Finding the key to a successful relationship is a desire many have. It’s fairly obvious though, that there is no one answer. Two relationships could mirror each other nearly perfectly, with one succeeding and one failing miserably.
There are no cheat codes that work every time, no fast fixes and no "golden" tips.
The importance of compatibility is an aspect that’s often brought up, and with the prevalence of online guides and tools meant to judge compatibility based on personality, star signs or even genes, it’s impossible to escape from the value society places on it.
So, just how important is compatibility to an enduring, happy relationship? How can it be defined? Is it as simple as having things in common and sharing interests and passions? Can two people who are opposites still be compatible?
Compatibility is based on common values,commitment and life goals, a high level of comfort with each other, shared experiences and the ability to have fun with each other. These are essential components for a lasting relationship.Ironically, achieving relationship compatibility often means thinking outside your comfort zone.
Chemistry is about looks and body type, but it's more of a gestalt thing.
Basically,being in a compatible relationship means that you work well together, enjoy each other's company and have a good time. You're very in-sync but tend to act more like friends or friends with benefits, than two people who are actually in love. ... "But you can't have love without compatibility.
Chemistry, on the other hand, represents the emotional connection present when two people are together. When there is a high degree of chemistry, that strong connection can bring out warm, fuzzy emotions in the each other, creating a kind of positive feedback loop through which two people continue to make each other feel better. When you have a high degree of chemistry with someone, they monopolize your thoughts and/or your free time.
High levels of chemistry usually come from opposite yet complementary qualities in people. A woman who is highly-strung, energetic and slightly neurotic will tend to have a high degree of chemistry with a guy who is relaxed, mellow and open. Introverts often have natural chemistry with extroverts. People who are orderly and intense planners sometimes work best with people who are spontaneous and unorganized.
Unlike a lack of compatibility, a lack of chemistry doesn’t repel –it simply results in a lack of emotional intensity. Things just feel kind of dead and boring.
Chemistry is also reflected in the bedroom. A lack of chemistry will mean boring, emotionless sex. A high degree of chemistry will mean intense, life-altering, heart-pounding sex that causes your mind to cosmically splatter itself on the walls of your consciousness.
Compatibility and chemistry don’t necessarily always occur together. A relationship with high compatibility but little chemistry is likely to be a boring yet comfortable series of meetings and conversations, dry and dull until both parties simply stop caring and drift apart, or they consummate their mutual convenience by getting married and find themselves in a lifetime of uncomplicated and (often) a sexual companionship. Sadly, this arrangement isn’t uncommon.
Chemistry without compatibility on the other hand, usually leads to disaster. Sometimes it can be as simple as not living in the same part of the world, but often it’s far more complicated than that.
When two people are completely incompatible, it’s often the case that behavior becomes completely irrational. Too often, two incompatible people initiate a cycle of mutual emotional immolation, spiraling through love/hate cycles together at the speed of life. People find themselves saying things like, “I don’t care if he’s married to a convicted felon, we’re meant to be together,” or “Look, I know she faked being pregnant to get me to propose to her, but you know, it may just be fate, right?”
To conclude Being compatible with your partner is really important to build a strong relationship.
You have to get along with your partner, know his/her opinions and ideas. Sometimes a small difference of opinion can wreck a relationship.
When the couple agrees on a decision made in the relationship, the love between them grows. When two people are compatible, they enjoy each other's company.
It's important because being compatible strengthens the bond in the relationship.
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